Sunday, March 7, 2010

FOCUS OR DISTRACTION ......OR IS IT BOTH?

I thought maybe I was alone in this. Then I was talking to my sister about it and she does the exact same thing. Is it something in our genes? Or is it widespread? We can't be alone. Can we?



I seem to throw myself into things full throttle. Maybe it's not a bad thing to do.......but it is when I get so consumed I neglect other areas of my life.



One example:



I became a Princess House consultant, boom I achieved my goals and got an award for most sales. But I was constantly taking phone calls, scheduling parties, etc. There was no happy medium. There was no start and stop to the work day. This is what I felt I needed to do at the time as our business was on a slow time. But as soon as I didn't have to do this anymore I dropped it like yesterday's doughnut!



OK, you are right, I wouldn't drop yesterday's doughnut, I'd eat it while complaining about it being stale...... but you get the idea.



It really doesn't matter what "IT" is, I throw myself into "IT". And it becomes almost an obsession. It's what I think about all the time. In the mean time other things get lost in the shuffle. Somethings in my life require a lot of time but where is the balance? I need to find the balance.



Why can't I obsess about laundry and dishes?



I obsess about working on my blog, new idea's, a new site design.........and then I get pulled away and don't finish.



I obsess about organizing my life and my home..........and then I don't finish.



I obsess about what vacation we will go on.........and then I don't get it all booked.



I obsess about getting myself in better shape and eating right.......and then I don't follow through.



I obsess about my office work.......and then I mess around and get behind........



Get involved in so many things with church and charities that I get burnt out.



Why? Am I alone? Is this normal?



So my goal.........is to set goals and meet them......NOT obsess about them but follow through. Finish them..... Don't start another project until I finish the first. Get excited about things but don't center my life around them.



I'm making a list. I think this is key to getting organized. So I'm making my list. Not necessarily a "BUCKET LIST"........ but a list of things I've always said I want to do and then I don't. Or things I know I need to do and I don't, not consistently anyway.



You are all my accountability partners. I'm all about spillin' the beans on myself, good or bad.....so I'm holding true to those words.



I'll fill you in on the areas I'm working on as I work on them.



Areas of improvement I'll be speaking on are these:



1. Organization (I've already touched on this)

2. Balance Office duties with motherhood

3. Household cleaning, decorating, organizing

4. Planning a menu and cooking meals each night.....

5. Finish and launch my new blog and keep up on posts..cancer story, etc.

6. Take guitar and voice lessons instead of thinking about how great it would be to do it.

7. Plan vacations, make reservations and put on the calendar.

8. Write out our monthly budget and stick to it.





Seems like a large list but it's all flying around in my head. I want to be the best wife, mother, daughter, sister and friend that I can be. I only have once chance at my life. I mentioned before I want to be a Proverbs 31 woman. This is still my goal and though I could never be everything that Proverbs 31 speaks of, I can be the best that I am capable of being.



When I feel organized and have plans set and am not obsessing in one area and letting others go I am a happier person.



I rambled on in this email, but this is so important to me..... I'm on a mission.



Maybe it's my new obsession. But if my obsession is to become a better person in all areas of my life, I could think of worse things to obsess about......



Obsess is a bit of a strong word, but I think it makes the point I'm trying to get out there.



Am I alone? Is it a family (sisters) trait? Do any of you do this? Am I normal? Well, normal is also a strong word..to use when describing me..ha ha



Ciao Bellas~

4 comments:

  1. You are not alone!! I am right there with you ... Normal? I don't know if I fit there either, but .. I'm in good company!

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  2. You are normal cous! same here BUT....we DO have the same genes! I stress with the same struggles so maybe we CAN become a support for each other, I get tired of 2 steps forward and 10 back! I say we have a girls weekend away and discuss it and make some lists and make each other accountable! Oh poo, I guess that would require planning a trip huh? lol lol

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  3. CottageGirl - Thanks for letting me know that "I" am in good company! I've had a great start this weekend though, spent all day yesterday trying to get on track and plan to today also!

    Lanette- Yes, cous' we do have the same genes! LOL But I think planning a girls weekend away to discuss it sounds wonderful! LOL Love you cous'

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  4. It's like the Ramble I posted a few years ago - http://www.joy-cafe.com/Files/Wanderer.html - about wandering from room to room!! You have some great goals and prompt me to make the decision this is my year to be organized, too. You've already sent me on a cleaning rampage in my sunroom - almost done (phew). Thanx!!

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