Wednesday, September 15, 2010

"The Loss" and "The Will" {Both can seem heartbreaking}

"In loving memory of our Grandad- We love you!"

It's so sad how things can turn when someone passes away.  Especially if that someone has money and things they have left behind for "loved ones".  I told Hunk I think we should be sure to spend all of our money so our children don't have anything to fight over.

In the midst of mourning the loss of a loved one you have to tread lightly to not offend the ones left behind.

My feelings have been and always will be that the person who worked for every nickle they have has the right to do with it as they please.  We may not agree with their decision.  We may not like their decision but I feel we should respect the fact that THEY made the money, THEY saved the money and THEY have the right to leave it to who THEY feel it should go to.  Just as we have the right to earn money, save money and leave it to who we see fit.

Obviously there are exceptions if someone was not of "sound mind" when the will was made.

I know this is a morbid subject but it is one that is heavily on my mind the last few days.

I cried last night for the loss of Hunk's grandfather.  I cried because yesterday was also the 15 year anniversary of Hunk's fathers death.  And I cried because I miss Hunks grandmother who passed a few years back.  I miss them all so much.  I cried happy tears because they are now all together again and I cried sad tears because of them no longer being here with us.

I cried because of the honor I felt for the things left to us and then I cried because of decisions that are being made out of guilt instead of out of what was intended.  And I prayed for peace and for guidance for my Hunk as he goes through this very difficult time. 

I just want to give it all back and have Grandad here for another day.  It breaks my heart that that isn't an option we have.

I love you Grandad and I thank you for everything you have ever done for us and taught us.  You were an angel here on earth and you are missed and loved more than we could ever express.

Thank you my efriends.... for letting me spill the beans.......straight from my heart.



  1. What a sad and beautiful tribute. Tell us stories about him sometime! He looks like he had a great smile! You will get thru this and help Hunk thru it. Here's to great memories of these loved ones.

  2. My heart is hurting for you guys right now. It is so hard to say goodbye but when you put in family disagreements that makes it even harder. Be strong and try to remember what a wonderful man he was.

  3. I just wanted to say I love you Steph. And I will be praying for you all.

  4. So sorry cous! hugs and prayers coming your way right now-please give Mike our best!!!!

  5. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm praying for you and the family as you deal with this. Hang in there!

  6. Stephanie, I am so sorry for you loss. Today would have been my grandmother's 96th birthday. We lost her two years ago and like you miss your loved ones, I miss her every day. I try to remember her as she was and share her love with every one in the family. I try to carry on her legacy that way and not get mired down in all the other "stuff." Thoughts, prayers and good vibes coming your way through cyber space.

  7. I hope the loving and happy memories of your Grandpa help you during this difficult time.

  8. Wow! Thank you all so much! I am blown away by the love and support I have from you all. What a difference a day makes. I'm feeling so much better today. In fact today is one of those days when everything seems to just go "right". I'm outta that pit (though I miss him and love him) I'm able to feel the "I love my life" feeling again.... Your love and support helped me very much!

    Miss melbattoast 68 (((((HUGS)))) Happy birthday to your grandmother! I'm sure she is so honored that you are here to cary on her legacy! Good girl! We all need to try to live that way.